Healing through corrective experience

“People think we need time to heal. But what they actually need is new experiences which show their nervous system a different reality.

When someone goes through repeated trauma or disappointment, their nervous system starts to expect danger, rejection, loss. It starts to predict pain even if it’s no longer there. And that’s when self sabotage begins.

So what we actually need is new input. A secure friendship which teaches your body that connection can be safe or a boundary that’s respected which teaches you it’s safe to speak up.

Healing isn’t just the absence of pain, it’s the presence of new, corrective experiences.

Because the nervous system doesn’t learn through time - it learns through repetition and contrast. It needs to feel something different in order to believe something different” - Francesca Tighinean

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